Eat, Pray, Love Book Review

Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

We welcome back regular contributor Dave Baldwin who reviewed Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love. Enjoy his insights and please let us know what you thought of this book, too! I must admit that I hesitated to read Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert when my friend recommended the book. I was afraid it would turn out to be “chick lit.” Based on the blurb copy, I expected to read “Eastern Philosophy Meets Sex and the City.” My fears proved unjustified, and I found myself fascinated to get the female Generation-X urbanite’s perspective on world religions as they apply to real twenty-first century life. For me personally, the book had the added bonus of helping me to understand  women a tad bit better, and that alone made the book worth reading. Gilbert’s raw, authentic, matter-of-fact writing style was the first thing that hooked me. I later learned, after finishing the book, that she had deliberately written the book as if talking to her best friend. That made perfect sense. Throughout the story, I had a sense that the juicy morsels of the story weren’t held back at all. Don’t get me wrong; she doesn’t delve into exhibitionistic detail about the goings-on in her bedroom. She shares the little things that one would only expect a friend to understand. I would have sworn that I didn’t have a sexist bone in my body until Eat, Pray, Love forced some of my unconscious gender biases to the surface, starting with the first chapter. My ever-judging mind read the opening scene – where Gilbert shares her revelation that she had no desire to stay married – and immediately began to expect a paleo-feminist man-hating tirade. “Great,” I thought. “This is going to be a book about what a creep her husband was, by extension, the whole male sex is.” She shattered that illusion. Gilbert’s frankness in admitting her own guilt in the matter of her divorce and going inward to work on herself was admirable, but what really sold me was her leap of faith that led to a conscious awakening. I was a bit ashamed of myself. Not once throughout the book did I find it difficult or even challenging to relate to her writing from a male perspective. The struggles that Gilbert shared, for the most part, did not occur to me as distinctly female, but as universal to the human condition. It also didn’t strike me that she wrote her book just for women. Gilbert seemed willing to be heard and understood by anyone willing to listen. For one example, she shared her comical Abbott and Costello-esque battle with her mind during meditation. Her recounting of several episodes struggling to quiet her mind was all too familiar. I clearly saw a “before” and “after” picture of Gilbert’s life that showed both compassion and warrior-like discipline. She started out in what appeared to be a sleepwalking pattern, living life according to what she thought everyone else wanted. Little by little, page by page, I could see her questioning her own assumptions and the artificial unwritten rules of the culture that had kept her self-expression stifled during the decades that had preceded her 18-month journey. The Elizabeth Gilbert at the end of the story was clearly a different Elizabeth Gilbert from the one at the start, but I could also see that the real person underneath all the layers and masks hadn’t changed from page one. She exemplified what it can look like to allow one’s real self to float gently to the surface. The most valuable aspect of this book, from my perspective as a reader, was getting to see what it looks like to move from a “default” life to a created life. I saw the essence of adventure in Gilbert’s writings, and it challenged me to take more aggressive steps forward in my own life. It made me just a bit more uncomfortable with the ordinary aspects of my existence, which is what a good book should do. About Dave:  Dave Baldwin is a writer who has lived and worked in Raleigh, NC since 2007. He has self-published two books: Pied Piper Entrepreneurship (2009) and Get That Book Out of Your Head! (2009).     Your Turn: For those of you who have read Eat, Pray, Love what did you think about it? Did it move you? Did it make you see things differently (or not)? Tell me!

Girls Gone Child Book Review

Girls Gone ChildGirls Gone Child by Amanda Lamb My rating: 4 of 5 stars In her second book on parenting, Amanda Lamb continues her journey into motherhood when her two girls reach school age and start asking questions about everything from politics to race to religion. They also start noticing things and want to talk about them. Like when three-year-old Chloe starts pointing out that some people are larger than others, usually in a loud voice within earshot of the person in question. “Mommy, that man is lar-” she begins. Before she can get the word out, I do a drop-on-a-dime u-turn, the best I can under the circumstances. Like a NASCAR driver I have the cart up on two wheels making the hairpin turn into the next aisle in record time, trying not to nail anyone in the process. The book touches on many of the usual issues of parenting, including the kids’ fascination with body functions, negotiating the treacherous world of popular culture, exercising with kids and braving the hazards of illness with humor and sensitivity. As a working mom, Lamb juggles her professional life and her personal life, with sometimes surprising results. She was booted out of the carpool in part because the kids overheard her talking on the phone regarding her work as a TV reporter on the crime scene. I mean my own kids are used to my switching back and forth between talk about blood and guts and “The Wizards of Waverly Place,” but most mommies don’t have this kind of life. Although the book is often laugh-out-loud funny, at times Lamb also manages a tender reflective tone that many parents will identify with. She’s well aware that these days of childhood are numbered and makes an effort to step back from her hectic life and appreciate the sweetness of her children’s early years. As part of a two-parent family, Lamb occasionally gets frustrated with her husband, but she also appreciates his contributions to the family. When a baby is born a father is born too. I can be a lot of things to my daughters, but a father is not one of them. Many parents will appreciate the chapter on animals and pets. From the shelter to the backyard to the veterinarian, Lamb struggles to make peace with her children’s desire for pets and her own reluctance to deal with them. The section on “revenge poop” in particular gave me a good laugh and made me glad I’ve been able to avoid having pets that don’t live in a cage (we own three parakeets). It’s impressive that even with a full-time-plus job, Lamb takes time to record the little day-to-day events and funny things her kids say. I guess it comes naturally to her as a news reporter to keep a notebook with her at all times and to record things as they happen. Of course, her kids are no dummies and they caught on pretty quickly to her writing things about them. When Mallory was six, she and her mother had a particularly vivid conversation about God in the car one day. Lamb grabbed her notebook and began scribbling notes at a stoplight. Suspicious, Mallory asked if she was writing about her and Lamb confessed rather sheepishly that she was. “How about using your own thoughts,” she says, slumping back into the seat with a chip the size of Texas on her shoulder. Because yours are a lot more interesting, I think to myself. I don’t know about you, but I can hardly wait to see what they’ll come up with next (see below).

Amanda Lamb

Amanda Lamb’s new true-crime book, “Love Lies” (The Berkley Group) will hit store shelves in December 2011. It is based on a high-profile case in Cary, North Carolina, that she covered for WRAL-TV. Nancy Cooper was found dead in July 2008 a few miles from her suburban home. Her husband, Brad Cooper, said she went jogging and never returned. He was convicted of her murder in July 2008. Amanda Lamb is a hard-charging veteran TV crime reporter for WRAL-TV in Raleigh. She writes in two completely different genres—true crime and parenting humor. Her true-crime work includes “Evil Next Door” (The Berkley Group) and “Deadly Dose” (The Berkley Group). Her parenting humor includes “Girls Gone Child” (CreateSpace) and “Smotherhood” (Globe Pequot). She’s currently working on her next parenting book, “I Love You, to God and Back” (Thomas Nelson), set for release in Spring 2012. Find out more about Amanda Lamb HERE View all my reviews

Seriously Dangerous Book Review

My review of Helen Losse’s Seriously Dangerous ran in Issue 65 of The Pedestal Magazine. Read the full length version here. Enjoy!!! What’s God’s intention? What is out there that we cannot see? In her new book of poems, Seriously Dangerous, Helen Losse meditates on God, Jesus, the passing of time, prayer, racism, and injustice, as well as the nature of sin, faith, and redemption. In these serious poems, the titles of which represent both themes and places, Losse plays with the opposites of light and dark, inner and outer, and urban and rural, using evocative but accessible language and understated rhymes. Her considerable knowledge of Christianity, specifically Catholic church history and its customs, informs many of her poems, resulting in frequent employment of Christian metaphors and symbols. Readers who are less familiar with Christian history and theological specifics may not connect with all of Losse’s references. Fortunately, the poems work on several levels, also integrating familiar subjects such as weather, the moon, and candles.           Losse introduces her work with two epigrams, one from Oscar Wilde (“An idea that is not dangerous is unworthy of being called an idea at all”) and the other from scripture (“God is light and in him no darkness” from I John, 1:5), which set the tone for what is one poet’s search for God’s presence in ordinary objects. In the titular poem, “Seriously Dangerous,” Losse drives readers to the Deep South’s memories of racial injustice as the poem references Jesus’s crown of thorns (“the prick of a thorn”) and baptism in the last line, “nor wash us clean, till truth bleeds.” Losse is at her best when she employs specific images such as “old dryers bob beside alligators.” The cover art for the book is the image of a burning cross, a central motif that particularly comes alive in the line “Seriously dangerous,/ the cross without a savior.” The poem in its entirety: The evening begins with kudzu— summer memories submerged in a deep southern swamp— where spirited black boys, old dryers bob beside alligators. Late in hot night, flashes of yesterday surface in pain like the prick of a thorn, the mock of a crown that continues its burn. Low whispers, deep shadows remain where trials by fire have left actual trails after a tromp in slime & muck, with tell-tale footprints from society’s work boots. Seriously dangerous, the cross without a savior— deniable today, but for masks, hoods— cannot burn away filth & dross, nor wash us clean, ’til truth bleeds.   Central to Catholic ritual, candles represent hope, loss, and the Holy Spirit. In “Candle,” the speaker remarks on valuing the ugly the same as the beautiful. I do not avoid spots where leaves now decay— virtual ghosts of their green-spring existence in rain on city sidewalks and ominous shadows— and fall, when the moon’s orange light glows soft as an ember. I light a candle on Friday, autumnal wind chilling, as we wait in unspoken prayer.      Losse is “an old soul/ wearing nerdy glasses,” who won’t let go of her hope, perseverance, and patience no matter the challenges in this world. Her poems reflect her deep beliefs and faith, how she recognizes God in nature and the power of stillness.  But watch out—there’s an undercurrent of violence in God’s beauty that may strike at anytime. Losse seems to suggest that the best way to face this world is to pay attention to the wind, the snow, and the rain, as well as to acknowledge and perhaps eventually make peace with our dangerous personal and historical pasts.