Take A Jump With Me: Skydiving with Coach Olga

Today we welcome back Coach Olga Monroe who blogs about taking a big leap~Enjoy! Last month, while attending the Yoga Synergy Workshop I worked with a new friend, Jamie. While making casual conversation, we each asked what the other had been up to recently. It turns out that Jamie had just gone skydiving for the first time in her life and she was planning on going again over the 4th of July holiday weekend. A mixture of curiosity and excitement got the best of me and I immediately asked her if I could tag along the next time she went. So, about a month later, on Sunday morning, July 3, Jamie and I headed out to Triangle Skydiving Center for my first skydiving experience.   Knowing for the past month that I would finally go skydiving caused a reaction in and of itself. My old system of “agreements” consisted of nervousness, fear, and eager anticipation—the equivalent of swarms of butterflies fluttering throughout my system. In the past, I might have rambled on about my anxiety as a way of seeking others’ opinions, energy, and feedback. This time, I chose to keep the adventure to myself and, of course, Jamie. This gave me the luxury to create my own experience versus my old tried-and-true approach of having others create it for me. Trust me that this was not easy!   I have been exercising this new muscle of self-containment over the last couple of years. I am happy to say that it paid off in spades when the time finally came to go skydiving. My new approach was also instrumental for the friendship I was developing with Jamie. While we drove out to Triangle Skydiving Center, we both learned a lot more about each other, which further deepened our connection and awareness of one another.   When we got to the Center, the first thing we had to do was go through a series of waivers and watch a DVD designed to disclose, frighten, and “talk you out of” taking the jump. Guess they leave little room for any lingering doubt! Once the formalities were behind us, we went to the observation deck to watch other skydivers take their turns. Eventually, our names were called and we met our Tandem Jumping Masters. Jamie’s partner was the owner, Greg, and mine was John.   As John went through the process of fitting, securing and checking my equipment, he taught me the basic how’s, why’s, and what’s of skydiving. John had spent years in the medical profession and turned his skydiving hobby into a profession.   “Why do you skydive?” I asked him.   “While I am up in the sky, there are no problems, bills, issues, or DRAMA!” he said.   I felt as if I understood his statement perfectly, even without having tried the experience myself—yet!   I listened intently to every instruction that John gave to me. Eventually, we all went to the hangar, boarded the plane, and took off to the sky. I felt a combination of security, calmness, and excitement throughout the flight. I felt comforted by John’s instructions and the knowledge that everyone around me had already done this before—I was the only newbie. I also noticed that the experienced jumpers around me were more relaxed and joyous than most people I know day-to-day walking around on the solid ground.   So, armed with the affirmation that everything was going to be OK, I soaked up every detail that my senses could process. At first, I was focused mostly on the visual aspects of the experience, but when the plane got to the desired altitude, my visual, emotional, and kinesthetic senses all clicked together at once and came in sync.   All of a sudden, jumpers started rolling out of the plane like people escaping a fire through the nearest exit. Then, it was my turn to take the plunge. THANK GOD for John. We were attached as closely as Siamese twins. As we crept to the door, my mind kept repeating his directions like a spin cycle on a washing machine—right knee down and keep my sight to the sky.   Next thing I knew, we were free falling through the bright blue, vivid, and rich sky.   WOWIE ZOWIE!!!   I have to admit that the first few seconds included the tiniest drops of fear, but the love, beauty, and joy of the moment naturally flooded the fear out. It was simply the purest, most thrilling, and exhilarating experience ever! Knowing that I was so high above the ground and floating in the sky—a place so seemingly faraway and only “reachable” when I am in a plane—was surreal! We were all laughing, breathing, and enjoying this beauty of this experience and bonded by this unforgettable moment.   Eventually, John pulled the ripcord and our parachute opened.   There was a sudden jerk as it captured the air beneath it and proceeded to support us as we floated over the Earth. That is when I truly started to relax, look around, and slowly process what was happening. Oh, the expansiveness of the ground below me! I was able to take in the lay of the land, the limitless sky, and the surrounding atmosphere with absolute serenity. I noticed that without the parachute, I was completely in my body with only the air, and my fellow jumpers, around me to connect me to this world. When the parachute opened, I was able to maintain my sense of connection, but I also was able to add in my visual, mental, and emotional senses to the experience.   I am proud to say that I successfully followed all of John’s directions and even learned to land ourselves. I also got a superior report for the first entry in my Skydiver’s Logbook! But nothing beat the rush I felt of falling through the sky at 120 mph after jumping from a perfectly good airplane. Skydiving is an exhilarating and intense adrenaline rush. I now understand why John didn’t know—or need to know—what a Life Coach is. John exuded a happy, lighthearted, and exuberant energy. Thanks to him, I felt excited, safe, and aware of everything happening and what to expect. I felt I was living more “in the moment” than I have in a long time—and I loved it!   After I was safely back on solid ground—both feet firmly planted on the soil—I started wondering how I could hold on to this experience and learn from it, apply it to my life, and harness the feeling I felt while I was in the sky.   Your Turn:   What other lovely, beautiful, and joyous events are available to us, here on Earth, which we can use to strengthen or override the fearful, anxious, and nervous emotions that often throw us into inertia or depression? How can we add more adventure to our lives, or go outside our comfort zone to learn about ourselves a bit better?   About Coach Olga: Olga is a Certified Professional Co-Active Life Coach and Mentor who passionately inspires and motivates clients desiring to realize and achieve their life purpose to their fullest potential through a system of perspectives.  She encourages her clients to see the world and its many opportunities in a new way by learning to step fearlessly into their roles as leaders at work, in their family, and within the community.  Contact here here  919-604-0104    www.chickswhoknow.com Download Olga’s free Guided Meditation of Your Future Self now at www.yourrichesilluminated.com  

Guestpost: Remembering Amy Winehouse

Today we welcome back Coach Olga Monroe who blogs about the positive and not-so-positive effects of creativity as we remember Amy Winehouse who died Saturday July 23 in her North London home at the age of 27. Janis Joplin, Sylvia Plath, Edith Piaf, Vincent Van Gogh, Toulouse Lautrec and Amy Winehouse are only a small handful of talented artists who contributed pricelessly to our world through music, poetry and painting; yet lived a life of angst and turmoil which they attempted to extinguish through alcohol and drugs. Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now, expresses that, “The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly.  Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.”  Just a few pages later, he states that, “All true artists, whether they know it or not, create from a place of no-mind, from inner stillness.”  Those of us with a deep appreciation for our favorite artists recognize exactly what this “place of no-mind” produces.  Our favorite artists have added a new dimension or perspective to our lives.  Some of you, more fortunate ones, have experienced that creative “place of no-mind” when in the midst of creating your own individual contribution.  This may be through writing, painting, carpentry, sculpting, drawing, dancing, physical activity, counseling others and so many other activities.  What have your experiences been? I know, from my own experience with depression and suffering, how much pain the mind is capable of inflicting on an individual.  This is where I resonate with Eckhart Tolle when he states, “Used wrongly…it becomes very destructive.”  I can only imagine a fraction of the pain that these gifted artists experienced.  I relate it to the “other side of the coin” of their explosive creativity and contributions.  For example, look at some of Van Gogh or Toulouse Lautrec’s artwork.  Listen to “Je Ne Regrette Rien” (Piaf), “Me and Bobby McGee” (Joplin), “Love is a Losing Game”   or “Valerie”  (Winehouse).  Read one of Sylvia Plath’s poems. Select something that you are especially fond of.  Take a moment to absorb and appreciate the genius of these creations. Now imagine the opposite of how amazing these productions are.  I believe that my imagination and experience captures a fraction of the deep darkness that these artists experienced. I remember Amy and all of the positive contributions that she left us.  My heart goes out to her family, friends and all of us who miss her. About Coach Olga: Olga is a Certified Professional Co-Active Life Coach and Mentor who passionately inspires and motivates clients desiring to realize and achieve their life purpose to their fullest potential through a system of perspectives.  She encourages her clients to see the world and its many opportunities in a new way by learning to step fearlessly into their roles as leaders at work, in their family, and within the community.  Contact here here  919-604-0104    www.chickswhoknow.com Download Olga’s free Guided Meditation of Your Future Self now at www.yourrichesilluminated.com Your Turn: What do you think about Amy Winehouse and her short artistic career? How does it compare to other artists who struggle along the creative/destructive path?

Guestpost: Coach Olga Tames Stress

Today we welcome back guestblogger, Coach Olga Monroe of Raleigh, NC as she shares valuable tips on taming stress! You can’t manage your expectations and goals if you don’t know what it is that you want.  What are your goals?  Is it to be regularly connected to people?  To do an excellent job?  To call your own shots?  To have more time with your family?  To cultivate a personal relationship?  To maintain an active social life?  To maintain a health regime or exercise program? If you have two conflicting goals, such as being very active in your social life and also wanting to have a successful career, explore how to meet both goals in a way that works for you.  In this situation, perhaps you can parlay your social drive into professional networking activities after work so that you can kick back after you have left your office, while still actively improving your career. Manage Your Time When it comes to developing skills in time management, you’ll be most effective when maintaining awareness of your main goals. After you identify what you want—make a list or verbalize the goals you need to accomplish—start evaluating how to achieve them efficiently. Unplanned time gets wasted—your personal life spills into the work day, disorganization slows you down, and low energy can demotivate you.  What gets in your way?  What are your procrastination signs?  Do you tend to surf the Internet, walk around the office, take personal calls, or daydream when you begin to slip into procrastination mode? What daily routines can you establish to manage your time?  Set daily goals and priorities for each day so that you can plan out your schedule.  Find out which system works better for you—is it better for you to schedule your day the night before so that you will have it on your desk ready the next morning, or is it better to make it fresh each day when you arrive?  During the work day, we can become distracted by various external factors: ringing phones, incoming e-mails, co-workers coming in and out of our office, etc.  These distractions can wear our energy down unless we manage them.  How much time do you want to allocate each day to checking your e-mail and returning calls?  When are you free to talk with others?  What can be your standard phrase to let people know when you are available to get back to them if you are busy?  You may want to consider setting up an automated e-mail reply, or having a support staff screen your incoming e-mails and forward only the ones that require your attention at a specified time (for example, designate 8:30 a.m. and 3:30 p.m. each day for e-mails/calls), if your job is very interactive and fast-paced. Manage Your Stress Levels What do you need to do to keep your stress levels down while still working efficiently?  Do you need daily exercise, 8 hours of sleep, frequent stretch breaks, regular meals, or nutritious food?  No matter how carefully you plan your Outlook calendar or to-do list, you won’t achieve success if your agenda is not realistic or your stress levels are unhealthy. If you struggle to manage your stress levels, consider the following options to help reduce anxiety: What is your best time of day?  What tasks are best planned for those hours?  What is your slow time?  What tasks are best planned for that time? You may find that while your schedule is busy, it is not wisely planned, and this is burning you out every day.  If you are not a morning person, schedule important meetings for the afternoon.  If you notice you lack energy around mid-afternoon, avoid starting new projects at that time, or, consider having a healthy snack or taking a break to get some fresh air.  If none of these options are possible, how can you be creative? BEWARE of Multi-Tasking!  Recent findings reveal that we don’t actually “multi-task”, but rather, we switch attention from one task to the other.  It is estimated that we lose up to 40% (if not more) of our productivity by attempting to do more than one task at the same time.  This includes texting or checking Facebook pages while answering phones! Learn How and When to Say NO We live in a society that seemingly makes us feel guilty for saying NO.  But we need to remind ourselves that saying NO when something is draining our time and/or energy, is saying YES to our goals and to what we really want. Not every request or demand for your time needs be honored by you.  Learn to determine what fits with your goals and what doesn’t.  Learn to deliver a powerful, situation specific NO that you believe in and are comfortable with.  What makes a NO believable to you?  Is it a decisive tone, direct eye contact, a solid posture, a curt response with minimal (if any) added details? What skills do you need to improve on to make it easier for you to say NO? Remember: You Are NOT Alone We can often feel overwhelmed by our workloads and busy schedules, but what this Workshop reinforced, to me, is that we all experience the same struggles.  While our hectic lives may not be unique, we can create our own original plans in order to succeed with our goals. About Coach Olga Olga is a Certified Professional Co-Active Life Coach & Mentor who passionately inspires and motivates clients desiring to realize and achieve their life purpose to their fullest potential through a system of perspectives.  She encourages her clients to see the world and its many opportunities in a new way by learning to step fearlessly into their roles as leaders at work, in their family, and within the community. Contact her here or call her at 919-604-0104. Also visit her at ChicksWhoKnow. Download Olga’s free Guided Meditation of Your Future Self now at http://www.yourrichesilluminated.com YOUR TURN: How do you handle stressful situations? What tips can you offer?