Guestpost: Sandra Moulin”I’m Published!”

Today we welcome Sandra Moulin of Wilmington, NC to my blog. Sandra and I first met in 2007 when I conducted a memoir workshop at Quail Ridge Books in Raleigh. As soon as I met her (or before from her emails) I knew she was a passionate, persistent writer–NOTHING was going to stand in the way of her publication journey. So here is her baby, Before and Laughter, her humorous memoir and here is Sandra talking about her new book. You can purchase Sandra’s book at her website, The Write Note.  Enjoy! Alice After writing a humorous column for our community newsletter for three years and having various people tell me that they were keeping a file of my “hilarious” essays, I decided that putting essays like these into one volume would make an entertaining tome to market. I took the best ones, added many more, and over the period of about one year, I completed over 130. The first step was to set about finding an editor. Alice Osborn, whom I had met at her Memoirs Workshop in Raleigh a couple of years prior had motivated me to write my memoirs (which I did), and so I contacted her to ask if she’d edit my essays. She agreed and did an excellent job of not just editing but giving me marketing tips, helping me choose a publisher and referring me to a website designer. Upon her recommendation, I chose Createspace.com to self publish. I am very happy with the cover they designed for me, with the formatting of the book, the  distribution channels they provided and their prompt delivery of my copies. My book is “my baby.” It is not just a collection of clever, creative and amusing essays; it is a roadmap of how I see my world. It is ME. I pick it up as though it were a week-old infant, and when people look at it, I want them to think, “Oh, BEFORE and LAUGHTER, how adorable!” Humor is very subjective.  Although some people may find one topic hilarious; others might just smile and turn the page. Recognizing this as a red flag, I conducted my own survey on peoples’ sense of humor. What I discovered was that what many people laughed at, I did not find funny. What I laugh at, many people don’t find the least bit amusing. Therein lies the rub. As I am a risk taker, I decided to forge ahead and trust that MOST readers will find their own “you-can-say-that-again” or “I can relate to that!” chapter in my book. The journey of writing, publishing and marketing is exciting, tedious, frustrating, frightening, exhilarating and rewarding. The better one’s technological skills; the easier the publishing piece. I am just now entering the marketing phase, and the challenge is how to sell myself humbly but assertively. I consider this phase a personal journey. I must learn to thicken my skin, assert myself, take pride in what I’ve created and listen to but not internalize the criticism which is sure to come. I am proud to have created a tangible piece of myself to offer the world; but I know there are many lessons yet to learn. My goal is to publish my second volume and to practice what I preach:  Laughter is contagious; spread the virus.” Thank you, Sandra! Here’s more about Sandra Moulin: SANDRA MOULIN, M.A. is a freelance writer whose specialty is humor and lifestyle essays. A former high school Master Teacher and university instructor, Sandra is an accomplished pianist, a dynamic public speaker, a professional actress and a former President of Toastmasters of Birmingham, Michigan. Sandra has spent the past five years writing for local magazines in Wilmington, North Carolina and running fundraisers for local nonprofit organizations,. Her work has appeared in Livin’ Out Loud Magazine, Focus on the Coast, Wilma and The Porters Neck Homeowners Association Newsletter of which she was Managing Editor for three years. She lives with her husband and travels often to exotic places and to visit their four daughters and ten  grandchildren. Your Turn: What questions do you have for Sandra? Are you on the road to publication? What tip or tips can you give that might help a fellow writer who wants to be self published?

Why I Teach Memoir

I teach memoir because I want to help others remember the past.  I want others to preserve their memories so no one’s left wondering what happened? Writing down the past provides a link, like a rope between the past and the future. Some people want to capture their stories to give something real and tangible to their grandchildren; others want to feel that their life meant and means something. Writing your memoirs can also teach you to stop cycles of abuse and give logic to highly charged emotions. Writing down your memoirs may not eliminate family secrets but it can create reckoning and growth. Memoir writing helps you control something in the present you weren’t able to control in the past and that is so powerful. I think it’s a shame that we cannot be witness to so many of our grandparents’ lives because they didn’t leave a record for their descendants. For instance, I hardly know anything about my French grandmother, born in 1895, died in 1995. My namesake. I know she could sew and cook and lost three brothers (or was it an uncle in WWI in Northern France?) but I don’t even know what she looked like before the age of 50. She didn’t like to have her pictures taken and my mother told me she burned all of her photos because she didn’t want anyone making fun of the clothes she wore back in the day. At least I had a chance to know her, while my younger brother probably only remembers a very old woman yelling at him in French. They didn’t have much of a relationship as he was 10 the last time he saw her, while I was 14. If she had written a letter to both of us or exclusively to my brother (who was named after her husband, my grandfather), my brother would have felt much more connected to his grandmother and she to him. On the other hand, my father’s father kept meticulous records and I have many of his framed postcards and ship paintings hanging in our house. He was a retired naval captain who served in Bremerhaven after WWII and commanded a ship in the Pacific during WWII. On the backs of the postcards and photos he lists where/when and who. He was a nonfiction writer who wrote for Naval Proceedings and in later years for the Op-Ed section of his local paper in Annapolis, Maryland. Because of Grandpa Osborn I have my childhood photos of me at age 3 and 5 from his mantle. My parents and I are estranged from each other and I don’t have any photos of myself that I didn’t take. So my grandfather’s photos of me are the only ones I have which I acquired after he died in 1998. When you write down your memories you’re also preserving them and you help connect others to your life. If you are interested in learning more about writing your memoirs and are ready to jump in, sign up for my “Sharing Your Story: A Beginning Memoir Experience” at A Place for Women to Gather in North Raleigh starting Tues. January 11th to Tues. February 15th (six weeks) from 11:30-1:30pm. No previous experience is required and all writers at all levels are welcome to join us. And don’t let the name fool you—gentlemen: we welcome you, too! Cost is $60, which is extremely reasonable—only $10 a 90 min class. You can register online HERE Looking forward to having you share your story with us!
Alice
Sharing your Story: A New Beginning Memoir Experience Location: A Place for Women to Gather, 8380 Six Forks Rd, Suite 201, Raleigh, NC 27615 Starting Tues Jan 11th through Tues Feb 15th  Duration: 6 weeks Suggested Donation: $60 Time: 11:30-1:30, participants bring their own lunch. Drinks and dessert provided. To Register, click HERE or email Alice or call Alice at 919-971-9414